Happy Birthday to me! I am finally among all the other adults in the world. So excited to finally pay taxes… just kidding. The other day I was thinking about all of the privileges I would now have as a result of this landmark birthday. While I am very excited to vote in the next election and be able to buy things on my own (i.e. houses and cars), I also realize I am still young and still learning just like the rest of my fellow adults. (That’s never going to get old!)
Before I reached the big ONE – EIGHT I did some thinking about the end of my “childhood” years. Wow we have come so far. (Middle school was roughhh y’all!) I have always thought of myself as someone who is fairly good at reflecting, learning from my mystakes, and finding who I really am (as cliche as that sounds). Like I mentioned before, we are all learning and will continue to do so for the entirity of our lives. So here ya go, 18 of the many lessons I’ve learned throughout the first eighteen years of my life:
You get what you give.
This could apply to many aspect of your life but to me, I think it’s most applicable regarding friendships. Over the years, I have been blessed with so many absolutely amazing friends (most of which are more like sisters <3). I can honestly say that the reason why I have the friends and relationships with them that I do is because of the effort and investments I made. When you care about someone geniunely and go out of your way to do things for them it will come back to you. (I could talk about friendship for days so I’ll leave it at that. BTW… A post about friendship is in the works and on its way, so keep your eyes peeled.)
You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.
Despite what you may think, this is not a clever drinking saying. (Maybe when I’m 21?¿) This has more to do with following your dreams than anything else. You can never reach your goals if you never put any effort toward them. You can’t ever succeed when you never give yourself the chance. Things won’t fall into your lap, effort is required.
Running is reallyyy not my thing.
You are uniquely beautiful.
It happens daily. You see a beautiful girl alter herself, her style, her makeup, her interests… every part about her to fit into this mold. Comparison is the silent killer and while the girl may still be alive her genuine self is gone, lost in the oblivion that is our world. Be yourself. You were made different than that girl on instagram who just seems to be photographable in a bikini from every. single. angle. But the most important part is you were made different from that girl for a reason. You are unique. And when you have nothing, you at least have that.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
The way you carry yourself/act effects the people who want to be around you.
Life is short. Take a deep breath and move on.
Look where you are going. (It’s forward by the way.)
I put this one and the previous one right next to each other for a reason. They corelate so heavily with each other. I always tell my friends this. They always ask me how I can just move on from things or get over things. Some that has to do with a very nonchalant attitude I have, but it is mostly because I have learned that there is absolutely no point loosing sleep over something that has already happened and that you literally can not change. It’s as simple as this. What happens when you turn backwards/aren’t focusing forward when you are walking? You normally run into something or stub your pinky toe. Just like stubbing your toe, wallowing in the past will stir up emotions/regret/pain. Look forward because that the only thing you can control and change.
Money can buy a lot… except time.
I don’t know if I can stress this enough. Time doesn’t last forever. Value the people you love, the places you’ve seen, and memories you’ve made. A full bank account is nice but a full heart feels much better (Don’t quit your day job but don’t neglect your ever so amazing life.)
Life goes on.
I promise. If you don’t believe you can check back here tomorrow. 😉
High school doesn’t have to be the best four years.
People put so much pressure on four very stressful years already. I’m entering my senior year and I can honestly tell you the best has yet to come. (Or at least I hope.)
Driving is soothing for the soul.
There is absolutely nothing better than driving when you are upset. Turn the music up, put the windows down, and let your worries drift out into the open air.
Celebrate the little things. Celebrate all things because at the end of the day you are still alive.
We, as a whole, have become a very goal driven and results focused world. Which helps with productivity but also put a lot of pressure on getting to that certain place (whatever that may be). I have always been someone who celebrates every little accomplishment. Now that doesn’t mean I get a new follower on Instagram and I throw a dinner party for my 10 closest friends, but I do take a breathe realize I’ve done a good job and a pat on the back is deserved. If you go on a run, you deserve a long hot shower (or cold/luke warm one if you’re like me and hate hot water).
At the end of the day all that matter is if you tried your hardest.
Like I mentioned in the previous one, we have become so focused on getting to our goals. And I can honestly tell you that sometimes you will fall short and won’t quite get there. However, if you did everything in your power to get there, then you should be satified because that’s all you can really ask of yourself.
As many times as you say you can’t, it’s just that you won’t.
Sleep cures a lot. (Fresh air too)
Junior year was very stressful and very difficult and I slept through most of it and made it out alive. (Praise god!) ~~ I really like being outside when I’m upset there is something about not being in stale air conditioning air that really makes your issues (whatever they may be) seem smaller than you had originally thought. I can’t really explain it, you’ll just have to try it.
Waiting until something.
It’s the oldest story in the world. One day you’re 17 and planning for someday. And then someday is today, and then someday is yesterday. Often when your my age and into your twenties, you’ll have someone ask you what you wanna do when you grow up. To that I respond, why do I have grow up until I can do what I dream of. If you have a goal, go for it. Start now. Start actively trying to get closer and closer to it. You may take little steps but you are closer than you were before. (I’m a try-hard inspirational speaker.)
Breathe and take one day at the time.
My best friend always tells me, “It will all work out.” Boy, is she right.
Life is crazy but the world is yours.
Don’t forget to take it all in.
Love from Ralz,